How To Conquer Disordered Eating

By Laura Moncur @ 10:24 am — Filed under:

How to conquer disordered eatingIt’s rare when an article actually gets it right about how to conquer disordered eating, but this one is perfect:

There is a list of six lessons and it’s a good idea to go over to their site and read the whole story. It was very helpful to me.

  • Comparing yourself to others only sets you back.
  • Your relationship to food mirrors your relationship to your life.
  • You will never be done.
  • Perfectionism derails progress.
  • You are really, truly good enough—just as you are.
  • Disordered eating is your soul desperately crying out for help.

Each person has a different journey when they are recovering from disordered eating. For me, issues of control, envy, perfectionism, fear, expectations, judgment of others and many other faults came up when I worked through my program. Knowing that these problems with my thinking have caused me to overeat for years, really helped me. I learned to reprogram my thoughts and have had wonderful success.

If you want what I have, find the nearest Overeater’s Anonymous meeting, get a sponsor, do everything they say and keep coming to meetings.

Overeater’s Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog. I speak only of my personal experience and not for OA as a whole.


You Will Get A Lot More Compliments For Working Out Than You Will For Sleeping In

By Laura Moncur @ 10:32 am — Filed under:

I found this motivational poster and it really made me nod my head.

You will get a lot more compliments for working out than sleeping in from Starling Fitness

It reads:

You will get a lot more compliments for working out than you will for sleeping in.

It’s true and that might be a great motivation for some people. Here are a couple more iterations of the idea.

You will get a lot more compliments for working out than sleeping in from Starling Fitness

You will get a lot more compliments for working out than sleeping in from Starling Fitness

The truth of the matter is, I am pretty uncomfortable when I receive compliments, especially about my body. At the same time, I CRAVE them. It’s a strange dichotomy that I really need to work in my mind because the longer I maintain this loss and the closer I get to the weight the government thinks I should weigh, the more compliments I’m going to get.

This is one of those things I haven’t figured out yet. I crave compliments, but at the same time, I am uncomfortable when I get them. I brush them off, feeling that I don’t deserve them. A friend of mine the other day said that I was looking svelte and I literally waved it away and said, “No.” I want to impress people and at the same time, I am tremendously unwilling to take any compliments I receive.

This is insanity and I’m sure if I had a better self-esteem, it wouldn’t be a problem. I just don’t know how to get one of them self-esteem things.

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If You Have Time For…

By Laura Moncur @ 7:56 am — Filed under:

I saw this motivational poster on Daily Gains Fitness and I about jumped out of my seat.

If you have time for Tumblr you have time to workout from Starling Fitness

It reads:

If you have time for Tumblr, then you have time to workout.

For me, it’s not Tumblr that takes up all my time. It’s Facebook. There’s a poster for that one too, from Fit Photos page on Facebook.

If you have time for Facebook you have time to workout from Starling Fitness

It reads:

If you have time for Facebook, then you have time for exercise.

I spend a lot of time just zoning out and scrolling down on Facebook and Pinterest. If I just walked on the treadmill while I did that, I would have much more activity calories burned. I should put this motivational poster on my phone and iPad home screen so I see it every time I pull up my favorite obsession and replace it with a MUCH healthier obsession.


Focus Is About Saying No

By Laura Moncur @ 12:00 pm — Filed under:

I love this quote that I found today.

The hardest thing when you think about focusing. You think focusing is about saying Yes. No. Focusing is about saying No. And when you say No you piss off people. Steve Jobs from The Quotations Page

It reads:

The hardest thing when you think about focusing. You think focusing is about saying “Yes.” No. Focusing is about saying “No.” And when you say “No,” you piss off people.

  • Steve Jobs

That is so true for me. When I focus on a project, I really feel like it’s saying “yes” to that project. It is, in some respects, but it is also saying “no” to other projects. Not only that, it’s CONTINUALLY saying “no” to other projects until you make your goal.

That’s how it is with losing weight. It’s not about saying “yes” to losing weight and living healthy. It’s about saying “no” over and over and over again. In fact, you find yourself saying “no” so many times that it begins to feel negative.

  • Would you like a piece of pie?
  • Would you like to go out drinking with us?
  • Would you like to go to the movies?
  • Would you like to blow off your workout?
  • Would you like to take the rest of this home?
  • Would you like to meet me for dinner?

There is nothing wrong with any of these questions. There is a time for pie (at least a tiny sliver) and a time for movies, but when those things interfere with your goal of losing weight and living healthy, then you have to say “no.”

There is another way to look at it, though. Every time you say “no” rephrase it as a “yes.”

  • I would love that pie, but I have already eaten enough. Can you wrap me up a piece that I can take home? (Then throw it away in the nearest dumpster.)
  • I’d like to go drinking, but I need to wake up early to workout. I’ve got a 5K to train for.
  • I’d like to go to the movies, but I can’t handle all the popcorn and food there right now. How about we rent a DVD instead?
  • I love my workouts and I don’t ever want to blow them off. Want to come with me?
  • I would love to take that food home. (Then throw it away in the nearest dumpster.)
  • I’d like to see you, but it’s too late for me to eat right now. Let’s meet up at the bookstore (library, park, skating rink, etc.) and see each other.

The truth is, you WILL piss some people off when you have to say “no.” They’re not used to you giving your health a priority. After years of doing it, however, things will be different. People will treat you differently.

  • I know you don’t like pie right after dinner. Should I save you a piece to take home?
  • We want to go out drinking. When is your rest day for your morning workouts? We’ll go the night before.
  • Want to go to the movies? We can arrive right before it starts so there isn’t time for popcorn.
  • Can I come with you on a workout this week?
  • You probably don’t want this, do you? I didn’t think so. I’ll just save it for leftovers.
  • Want to meet at the bookstore?

Then, you can say “yes” instead of “no.” Training our families to be respectful of our dreams is something that is very important on this journey and this is one way you can start doing it now.


The Fat Had Nothing To Do With It

By Laura Moncur @ 10:22 am — Filed under:

I found this image of a pattern for a pioneer dress on Antique Dollhouse of Patterns. It reminded me of 7th Grade.

Pioneer Dress Pattern Eighties

When I was a kid, my grandmother made me two or three of these dresses. I was in the middle of an intense Little House on the Prairie phase and I needed dresses to go to church three times a week. I LOVED these dresses.

I learned to sew that summer by watching my grandmother make those dresses. Since that summer, I’ve always made some of my clothes and altered most of my store bought clothes. Store bought clothes never quite fit me correctly. Finding the right ones usually involves hemming or altering them somehow.

I always thought it was because I was fat.

Now that I am approaching “normal” sizes and can buy large “normal” clothes instead of plus sized clothes, I am surprised that I STILL need to alter my clothes. They never seem to fit correctly, but now I don’t have fat to blame.

That is EXACTLY how a lot of things are for me. I have blamed EVERYTHING on my weight, when in actuality, it had very little to do with things. Just like the fact that I still have to hem my pants, despite losing 70 pounds, I have many problems in my life that had nothing to do with my weight.

Like self-esteem. I still think I’m fat. Honestly, I still AM fat. I have thirty pounds to go right now, but I still feel as fat as I did when I was seventy pounds heavier. The fat has NOTHING to do with it. I feel fat sometimes and it has nothing to do with my body and everything to do with my mind.

Just like hemming my pants, I still need to work on my mind, no matter what I weigh. Getting thinner doesn’t solve my problems, it merely shows me what problems were caused by my fat (like chaffing thighs and being out of breath) and which ones were caused by my brain.


The Perfect Burpee

By Laura Moncur @ 2:29 pm — Filed under:

The description of how to do a burpee on Wikipedia is horribly confusing:

The burpee is a full body exercise used in strength training and as an aerobic exercise. The basic movement is performed in four steps and known as a “four-count burpee”:

  1. Begin in a standing position.

  2. Drop into a squat position with your hands on the ground. (count 1)

  3. Kick your feet back, while keeping your arms extended. (count 2)

  4. Immediately return your feet to the squat position. (count 3)

  5. Jump up from the squat position (count 4)

It is so much easier to SEE it, like with this animated GIF from Nike Women:

The Perfect Burpee from Starling Fitness

After watching this for a little while, I feel as if I could do a burpee or two. This is intense exercise that I have never been able to keep up for more than one day. I wonder what would happen if I tried.

Via: Funeral For My Fat, nikewomen: And I’m donnnne-nope.


Find Somebody To Be Successful For

By Laura Moncur @ 8:31 am — Filed under:

I absolutely ADORE this quote from President Obama!

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs. Barack Obama from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs.

  • Barack Obama

Thinking of other people instead of myself has been one of the most helpful things I’ve learned this last year. So many times when I am feeling bad, it’s because I am only thinking about myself. The minute I try to focus my goals on making other people happy, all that worry, fear and desire for control go out the window. Taking the focus off myself and my crazy head and putting it outside myself somehow makes the crazy go away.

And when the crazy goes away, I don’t feel the need to binge. I can eat healthy food and feel satisfied. I can exercise reasonably without injuring myself.

So go find somebody to be successful for.

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