I’ve talked a lot about fat acceptance lately, but even more harmful to my motivation to stay fit is Thin Hatred, Fit Prejudice or what I call Skinny Bitches. You know what I’m talking about. Skinny Bitches have a bowl of candy on their desk to make everyone else fat. Skinny Bitches go to the gym and barely break a sweat in the aerobics class. Skinny Bitches need to be the girl in the center of attention.
All these thoughts are damaging to me. I have an “Us Vs. Them” mentality that is standing in my way. If I want to be thin and healthy, how am I going to do it if I think that all thin women are Skinny Bitches? Will that make me a Skinny Bitch?
Fit Prejudice shows up in a ton of places in my life. I look at pictures of thin celebrities and think, “That Skinny Bitch needs to eat a sandwich.” I have heard Salma Hayek talk about the years she was tormented because she was too skinny as a child and teen. It was just as damaging to her as the torments I endured as a child because I was fat. In fact, every time I think, “Feed that girl a sandwich!” I am adding to someone’s pain.
I need to work on being loving and accepting of thin people without prejudice or discrimination. That girl with the candy on her desk is lonely. She puts the dish there because it attracts people. That girl at the gym has been working out every day her entire life to get to the point where she doesn’t break a sweat. She’s worried that she’ll gain weight if they don’t make a class vigorous enough for her. That girl who needs to be in the center of attention is just like me except she uses her appearance to get there instead of her wit.
We are all the same inside and the sooner I learn that, the easier it will be for me to get to my final weight goal. When I get there, I’ll just be Laura, not some Skinny Bitch.