Mistakes Show Us What Needs Improving

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

I love this quote from Peter McWilliams:

Mistakes, obviously, show us what needs improving. Without mistakes, how would we know what we had to work on? Peter McWilliams from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Mistakes, obviously, show us what needs improving. Without mistakes, how would we know what we had to work on?

  • Peter McWilliams

Life 101 by Peter McWilliams at Amazon.comThat quote is from a book called, Life 101. It was a life-changing book for me and definitely worth the read. You can read it online here: Life 101 by Peter McWilliams – Read Online.

The next time you go over your calories for the day or skip a workout, remember this quote. It’s an indication of what you need to work on. That mistake is a bright red reminder of where you are weak and how you can get better. It’s not a reason to punish yourself or give up. It’s just feedback.


There Is Help for Relapse

By Laura Moncur @ 10:11 am — Filed under:

This postcard from PostSecret made me so sad for the person who sent it in.

Relapse from Starling Fitness

It reads:

I can’t bear to tell my family I relapsed so instead I quietly suffer… alone.

I wouldn’t have thought this was about an eating disorder until I saw the “food+body wisdom” circle pasted in the middle. After a little research, I found that it is for Opal, which is a clinic in Seattle, Washington for those with disordered eating.

The person who wrote the postcard is not only aching from the relapse and all the pain in which that encompasses, but from the exorbitant cost her family paid to put her through Opal in the first place. They might accept your health insurance, but they are VERY clear that they are a paid facility with the comment, “Prior to receiving services, every effort will be made to verify insurance eligibility and benefits and educate clients about possible financial obligations. We accept check and credit card for any out of pocket financial obligations.

There is a way to get help without admitting yourself to a facility that is going to bankrupt your family. Get yourself to Overeaters Anonymous. Find a meeting here:

You might not be able to be honest with your family, but you are sure to feel more at home with a room full of people who have the same problem as you do. Binge Eaters, Bulimics, and Anorexics are all welcome there. Your only requirement is that you want to stop being sick about food. You don’t have to burden your family with “financial obligations.” You can get help with us.

Overeaters Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog.

PostSecret‘s beneficiary is the National Hopeline Network. It is a 24-hour hotline (1 (800) SUICIDE) for anyone who is thinking about suicide or knows someone who is considering it.


You Must Learn from the Mistakes of Others

By Laura Moncur @ 11:13 am — Filed under:

I saw this quote today and I agreed with it wholeheartedly:

You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can't possibly live long enough to make them all yourself. Sam Levenson from The Quotations Page

It reads:

You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.

  • Sam Levenson

If you are thinking that Overeater’s Anonymous can’t possibly work for you, DON’T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID!! I suffered for nearly ten years before I was so sick and discouraged that I tried it in desperation.

Whatever your reason for not giving yourself wholly to OA, drop it now. It’s just an excuse to give your disease more time to ruin your life. If you tried OA and decided it’s not for you, but you are still suffering, then that is also just an excuse to give your disease more time to ruin your life.

Honestly, there are lots of things about the program to scare people away. The introspection and the demands of rigorous honesty are HARD, but they are a hard that’s worth it. Instead of feeding your disease, take those most important steps to get yourself healthy again. Walk yourself right into an OA meeting, find a sponsor, do the step work and keep coming back.

You can’t possible live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself. Learn from mine.

Overeaters Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog.


It Takes 21 Days – LIARS!

By Laura Moncur @ 2:50 pm — Filed under:

I saw this image on Pinterest today and it kind of pissed me off…

It Takes 21 Days - LIARS from Starling Fitness

It reads:

It takes 21 days. 21 days of healthy eating and working out and it will become a habit.

All I could think when I saw this was:


I have been eating healthy and moderately working out every day for almost a year and it’s STILL not a habit. If I don’t diligently write down the phrase, “Walk dog 20 minutes” on my to-do list every day, I will blow off my workout. The only thing that’s even close to a habit is writing that phrase on my to-do list.

If I didn’t have my Fitbit vibrating my wrist every two and a half hours, I would FORGET TO EAT. That sounds like a great problem to have until an hour and a half later when I am bingeing on whatever food is nearby. It’s vitally important that I don’t skip those meals, but I definitely would if I didn’t have my Fitbit warning me. The closest thing to a habit I have about eating is to make sure I wear and charge my Fitbit.

I have an eating disorder. Sadly, I will ALWAYS have an eating disorder. Twenty-one days won’t cure it. A lifetime won’t cure it. I will have to watch myself carefully for the rest of my life and a little yellow image telling me that I can create new habits in a mere twenty-one days just sets me up for failure.

Don’t believe the hype. It might be easier for you after twenty-one days, but you won’t have any magic habits to make your life better. You can’t depend on that. If you do, it will only set you up for failure.


Congratulations to Kelly Osbourne

By Laura Moncur @ 1:46 pm — Filed under:

Back in 2010, Kelly Osbourne lost a lot of weight. She was even featured on Shape Magazine back then.

Kelly Osbourne 2010 in Shape Magazine on Starling Fitness

She deserves major kudos because she has kept that weight off for four years, which is UNHEARD of. Here she is at the Classic Rock Awards, supporting her father.

Kelly Osbourne 2014 from Starling Fitness

Whenever I see a celebrity lose weight I want to congratulate them on their hard work, but Kelly has done something even harder. She has KEPT it off!

2014 Image via: Kelly Osbourne pays tribute to dad Ozzyat the Classic Rock Awards | Daily Mail Online


A Bright Future for Man

By Laura Moncur @ 10:59 am — Filed under:

This quote reminded me of how I used to think.

I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for man if he spent less time proving that he can outwit Nature and more time tasting her sweetness and respecting her seniority. E. B. White from The Quotations Page

It reads:

I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for man if he spent less time proving that he can outwit Nature and more time tasting her sweetness and respecting her seniority.

  • E. B. White

I grew up watching The Jetsons and Disney’s cartoons about the House of the Future. I was told that I would have “Better Living Through Science.”

And I do.

I sincerely do have a better life because of a myriad of scientific discoveries and technological breakthroughs. But some of the promises turned out to be harmful instead of helpful.

For example, take that miraculous Monsanto Wheat that can grow in the winter. It has saved thousands from starvation, but I truly believe that it is part of the reason I was so sick for so long. Maybe the pre-GMO wheat would have made me just as sick, but now I cannot even eat that without pain.

Or perhaps, that idea that we’ll be able to eat all our meals in a single pill. That IS true. We could eat three or four protein bars a day and have almost all the nutrients we would need to stay alive. But eating to stay alive isn’t what I have ever needed to do. I was eating to feed something else.

I have found that when I “taste the sweetness and respect the seniority of Nature,” I enjoy life more and FEEL better. I used to eagerly await the day when machines would spit out the exact calories and nutrients I needed for my own personal system. Now, I just grab an apple and some almonds.


Mini Rosary Bracelet

By Laura Moncur @ 11:25 am — Filed under:

My beloved rosary broke a few weeks ago, spewing beads everywhere. I’ve talked before about how I use it for weight loss meditation and it has been so helpful to me.

I gathered the beads that I could and made this mini rosary bracelet.

Mini Rosary Bracelet from Starling Fitness

So much of the rosary is just extra beads. I can count on those ten beads five times instead of carting around a huge rosary, I can wear this discrete little bracelet wherever I go. I can touch the beads and recite my meditations anywhere without anyone knowing. Very stealthy.

Here’s how I meditate with my mini rosary bracelet.

How to Meditate with a Mini Rosary Bracelet from Starling Fitness

Just like the big rosary, at the tree bead, I do the OA Promise Meditation:

I put my hand in yours, and together we can do what we could never do alone. No longer is there a sense of hopelessness, no longer must we each depend upon our own unsteady willpower. We are all together now, reaching out our hands for power and strength greater than ours, and as we join hands, we find love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams.

Then, each time there is a single bead, I do the Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the Wisdom to know the difference.

For the three beads, I do the Third Step Prayer:

God, I offer myself to thee-to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always.

For the ten bead grouping, I do the Seventh Step Prayer, but I change it slightly. I do one set for each character defect I have, replacing “every single defect of character” with the particular defect (i.e. guilt, resentment, anger, etc.) and replacing the word “strength” for the corresponding positive aspect of each defect (i.e. self-acceptance, forgiveness, calm, etc.). I will write more about this technique in the future.

My Creator, I am now willing that You should have all of Me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to You and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do Your bidding.

Sometimes, I just do the generic seventh step prayer once and that’s more than enough to help me.

This little bracelet has given me such a peace to just see it on my wrist. No one can tell that it’s a talisman for me. You can make yourself a bracelet just like this or even make yourself a different one that works better for your needs. Find yourself a similar talisman and you will find a strength during the trying times of the day.

Overeaters Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog.


Better to Look Weak And Be Strong

By Laura Moncur @ 11:54 am — Filed under:

Sometimes things I write come back to smack me in the face. This quote was taken from a fiction blog I write called, Merriton.

Better to look weak and be strong than to look strong and be weak. Laura Moncur from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Better to look weak and be strong than to look strong and be weak.

  • Laura Moncur

Every time I start exercising again, it spirals out of control and I do WAY too much, which, ironically, causes a binge and usually injuries. So, I have held back on exercising. I did so much of it before and it never helped me lose weight. All it did was make me eat more.

I still walk my dog every day for a minimum of twenty minutes, but that’s something I do for her and for the sunshine that it gives me. I need at least twenty minutes of sun a day or I get a little depressed and stabby. That’s the sum total of my exercise for the last year, in which time I’ve lost a total of 56 pounds.

But then again, I know I am weak, no matter how much stronger I look.

I strained my back just walking yesterday. I didn’t pick up something too heavy or twist wrong. All I was doing was walking. THAT’S how weak I’ve become. But I don’t know how to get back to my weight-lifting regime without setting off my exercise bulimia.

I’m just as powerless over exercise as I am over food.

It has taken me a year to realize this. I NEED to exercise, just as much as I need to eat. It builds muscle. It keeps me strong. It protects my back and bones. It’s just as important as healthy food and just as binge-inducing. So, I need to treat it just like I have food ever since I joined Overeater’s Anonymous.

I’m powerless. I can’t control it. So I’ll just hand it over to someone who can.

I don’t know if it will be a trainer or my sponsor or what form my Higher Power may take in this case, but all I know is that I won’t be in charge. I overdo it and hurt myself every time I think I’m in charge.

The first job, however, is to finish unpacking the exercise room so I can use my weights again…

Overeaters Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog.


Wise Men Talk

By Laura Moncur @ 12:29 pm — Filed under:

I saw this quote today and it made me think:

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something. by Plato from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.

  • Plato

So much of my talking is because I have to say something instead of having something to say. I like to think that I’m providing a service to those poor, shy people by yakking up a storm, but instead, I am revealing my insecurities to the world.

I’m scared of the quiet.

When things are quiet, I imagine that the other person is stewing and thinking bad thoughts about me. If they weren’t they’d talk, right?


Sometimes there is just nothing to say. Sometimes it’s okay for things to be quiet. My filling the air doesn’t stop the other person from thinking bad thoughts about me. In fact, my careless words might give them something bad to think.

The act of shutting my mouth and letting the other person talk or even allow there to be silence is difficult for me. It’s one act that I need to learn and practice so that I can be a better person.


The Second Wave of Fitness Bands

By Laura Moncur @ 8:46 am — Filed under:

Microsoft Band from Starling FitnessMicrosoft just announced their Microsoft Band, which, like the Fitbit isn’t a watch replacement, just an activity tracker. After seeing all that Apple promised on their Apple Watch, the only reason that I can see someone buy this is if they use a non-Apple phone and want some sort of fitness tracker that isn’t Fitbit.

FitBit Surge from Starling FitnessFitbit, on the other hand has also joined the second wave of fitness bands with their Charge HR and Surge HR. The Surge is actually a watch in addition to all the other fitness tracking it does, but it’s still about as ugly as… well as ugly as a Casio.

THAT is what the second wave (and even Samsung’s Gear Fit, which I consider part of the first wave) doesn’t get about this. We are WEARING this thing. EVERY FREAKIN’ DAY!!! It NEEDS to be beautiful because we LOOK at it SEVERAL times every day. If it’s not beautiful, we aren’t going to wear it, no matter how many heart rate monitors and GPS trackers you put on it.

That’s part of what Fitbit got right the first time. Because the Fitbit had interchangeable bands, we were able to at least coordinate them with our outfits.

Interchangeable Bands for the Fitbit from Starling Fitness

We could change their appearance so that we didn’t get so sick of the slim plastic sitting on our arms next to our watches.

Tory Burch Fitbit Bracelet from Starling FitnessBut even now, after almost a year of looking at the thing, I’m SICK of it. I’m SICK of the ugly plastic and I REFUSE to pay TWO HUNDRED BUCKS for a Tory Burch bracelet to make it prettier. That Tory Burch bracelet is more expensive than the Fitbit itself. WHY would I do that?!

Why indeed?

When Apple offers me so many design choices and even a way to change the face of my watch to display the data I want, why would I buy the Surge HR or the Microsoft Band?


It all boils down to cost. The Apple Watch is rumored to start at $349, which is a full one hundred dollars more than the others. All of us are worried that the beautiful watch we have our hearts set upon is the NOT the lowest one on the market, so we’ll have to pay even MORE.

Is it worth it?

Is the Apple Watch worth that much more? Especially if you already own a Fitbit? I don’t know about you, but I have been waiting for a beautiful watch that was digital and had countdown alarms and dual time and showed the day and date on the front screen. WAITING for years for this watch, so the fact that Fitbit has upped their game and Microsoft has jumped into the pool doesn’t change my opinion. I want BEAUTIFUL and I’m willing to pay the extra one hundred dollars and wait the extra few months to get it.

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