1/22/2015

Be So Busy Loving Your Life That You Have No Time For Hate, Regret Or Fear

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

I found this motivational poster on Your Weight Is Over. I really liked the idea.

Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate regret or fear from Starling Fitness

It reads:

Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret, or fear.

Give Yourself A Dopamine Boost With A To-Do List from Starling FitnessThis has been, hands-down, the BEST way to feel better about myself. There are things in my life that I want to do. I want to write books. I want to have a healthy body. I want to go years and years without bingeing. I want to go to Quebec and speak French with the locals. So, I make a checklist every day. EVERY DAY!!

I set TINY goals every day that have something to do with loving my life. Exercising, meditating, writing, practicing French and all the things that will eventually take me where I want to be. Every time I check something off my list, I feel a tiny surge of feeling good about myself. In fact, I spend my whole day giving myself little doses of dopamine every time I check something off a list.

It’s WAY better than eating all day long.

And those negative emotions like hate, regret and fear all evaporate when I accomplish things. Because if you work a LITTLE bit toward your goals every single day, you WILL accomplish great things. You won’t hate other people. You’ll bask in their envy. You won’t fear the future. You will plan it out just like you want. You won’t regret what you never did. You’ll actually DO it!

Loving my life comes one check mark at a time!

1/20/2015

This Is What You Miss

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

THIS! This is what you miss when you blow off your workout…

Beautiful Sky from Feel Good Inc

Feel Good Inc. was out in the cold the other morning and she saw this sunrise. This is the kind of thing that you miss when you listen to that voice in your head.

It’s too cold outside right now.

I’m so tired from exercising every day.

I’ll just do the workout later.

When you listen to that voice, you miss out on the good things like a beautiful sunrise and an invigorating workout. The next time you have that nagging voice in your head trying to talk you out of getting your butt out of bed and doing your workout, remember this gorgeous morning sunrise that you could be enjoying if you just do the next right thing.

1/19/2015

One Year Chip

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

Last weekend, I got my one year abstinence chip in my Overeater’s Anonymous meeting.

OA Abstinence Chips from Starling Fitness

Before I came to OA, I had no hope. ZERO hope. I was managing my eating by counting the minutes between my alarms on my phone.

I had no hope for a cure for my brain, and honestly, there IS NO CURE for a broken brain. There is, however, a treatment and it takes everything you have to follow it. Fortunately, I haven’t had to sweat has hard as I did in the past, but I did have to learn how to be humble.

In fact, just writing this entry makes me worried that I’m not being humble, but as a recovering binge-eater, it’s my responsibility to share my hope, strength and experience.

In October 2013, I couldn’t go more than an hour without bingeing. I would eat ALL DAY LONG and I felt hungry all the time. Now, I hold in my hand, a one year chip. It has been over a YEAR since I have binged. There is hope. If you thought that you would start the new year right and are disgusted with yourself because you just cannot follow your program, get yourself to an Overeater’s Anonymous meeting.


Overeater’s Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog. I speak only of my personal experience and not for OA as a whole.

1/18/2015

This Time, Like All Times…

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

This quote is one of those that really helps me DO something with my life.

This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it. Ralph Waldo Emerson from The Quotations Page

It reads:

This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it.

  • Ralph Waldo Emerson

The part that was always hard for me is the “…if we but know what to do with it.” I had the hardest time knowing what to do because I always want to do it ALL. In my mind of over-everything, I want to do the grueling training workout every day. I want to write a hundred pages in my book. I want to write twenty entries for Starling Fitness and The Gadgets Page. I want to do ALL THE THINGS!

I Want To Do All The Things from Hyperbole and a Half

At some point, however, I have a system failure.

This was explained very well by Hyperbole and a Half:

Levels of Responsibility by Hyperbole and a Half

Just my list from earlier sends me into system failure, where I sit on the couch not knowing what to do. The ONLY thing that has ever worked for me is to set my goals LOW! Not just normal low. LOW LOW! So low that they feel like I am not accomplishing anything. You can’t imagine how very MUCH I can do by “not accomplishing anything.”

I’ve talked about this before:

Instead of a grueling training workout every day, my goal is twenty minutes of EASY exercise, like leisurely walking the dog. Instead of writing a hundred pages in my book, all I need to do is write a SINGLE sentence. That’s it. Instead of starving myself or keeping my calories below a certain level, I need to eat moderately every two and a half hours. I eat when my alarm goes off. I don’t when it doesn’t.

Instead of doing ALL THE THINGS and shutting down, I’m doing some small meaninglessly trivial things and getting a ton of stuff done in the process. This was brought home to me when I got my yearly email from Fitbit.

Laura Moncur Fitbit Stats for 2014 from Starling Fitness

In one year, I walked over a thousand miles and took 2.3 MILLION steps. You probably did the same amount last year, you just didn’t have a little device measuring your every move. You can accomplish so MUCH by just doing a little bit every day. Whatever your big goal is, break it up into small steps. Then break those steps into even SMALLER steps until the thought of doing that one thing sounds trivially easy. THAT should be your daily goal. Sure, dreaming big helps you stay motivated, but working small actually gets things done.

DREAM BIG, BUT WORK SMALL.

1/16/2015

Don’t Always Feel Like A Winner

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

I absolutely adore this quote from Lady Gaga!

Sometimes in life you don't always feel like a winner, but that doesn't mean you're not a winner. Lady Gaga from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Sometimes in life you don’t always feel like a winner, but that doesn’t mean you’re not a winner.

  • Lady Gaga

That statement, “Sometimes in life you don’t always feel like a winner…” is an understatement. It has taken me YEARS to realize that sometimes I feel like a complete and utter loser and it doesn’t matter. I just get up and do the work anyway.

The way I FEEL doesn’t matter.

It has taken my entire adult life to learn this. My emotions are sometimes up. They are sometimes down. No matter how I feel, though, I get up and do the work anyway. Just show up. That’s all I need to do.

I have have lost 59 pounds. FIFTY-NINE POUNDS and yet, most days, I feel like a complete and utter loser. I can’t even look at myself in the mirror or look at my weight loss graph to remind myself that I’m not a loser. Somehow those things don’t matter when I feel like a loser.

The only thing that matters is doing the work, whatever the work may be.

On the flip side, sometimes I feel a bit manic and feel as if I am a complete success and I don’t need to work anymore. That might feel good, but it STILL doesn’t matter. I still need to get up and do the work anyway.

This is not just true with weight loss. This is true about EVERYTHING: career, relationships, physical fitness, healthy eating, EVERYTHING.

I have published three books now. THREE books and yet, most days, I feel like a complete and utter loser. I can’t even look at the books and remind myself that I’m not a loser. Somehow those books don’t matter when I feel like a loser.

It doesn’t matter what you feel. Feelings might make you feel good. They might make you feel bad, but the MOST important thing is to keeping working through the feelings.

1/15/2015

Fail Better

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this quote!!!

Ever tried? Ever failed? No Matter, try again, fail again, Fail better. Samuel Beckett from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Ever tried? Ever failed? No Matter, try again, fail again, Fail better.

  • Samuel Beckett

I have been “trying” for ten years. I have been “failing” for ten years. And the BEST part is that I am actually failing better now than I did ten years ago. I will never be cured. I will never conquer this eating disorder, but I can keep trying and keep failing better and better.

1/14/2015

Always Look At What You Have Left

By Laura Moncur @ 8:00 am — Filed under:

I found this motivational poster on Positive Outlooks Facebook Page. It’s from the Positive Outlooks Blog.

Always look at what you have left. Never look at what you have lost. from Starling Fitness

It reads:

Always look at what you have left. Never look at what you have lost.

  • Robert H. Schuller

This is SO true for weight loss. Whenever I start bragging about how much weight I’ve lost, I am in for trouble. It might be the bragging and the lack of humility that’s the problem, but looking BACK is not the way to face the world. I always need to look forward. I may have lost 59.4 pounds, but I still have 42.4 pounds to go. I am just barely past the halfway mark. I have a lot more to go, so I need to stop looking in the rear view mirror and focus on those 42.4 pounds. THEY are the ones that are important…

1/11/2015

Train Your Mind To See The Good in Everything

By Laura Moncur @ 1:39 pm — Filed under:

Just when I was about to delete Fitness, Health and Confidence for being food porn and real porn, they posted this awesome animated GIF:

Train your mind to see the good in everything from Starling Fitness

It reads:

Train your mind to see the good in everything.

YES!!! This has helped me FAR more than any diet or exercise program. When I’m angry or resentful, I am always tempted to eat, so dealing with those emotions keeps me from overeating. Learning to see the good in everything has evaporated anger, alleviated resentment and helped me beyond words. The next time you’re feeling anger, remember to take a deep breath and try to think of three good things about the person you are angry about. Let it truly sink in how good this person is before you act and before you turn to food.

1/4/2015

All Other Education Is Good for Nothing

By Laura Moncur @ 6:06 pm — Filed under:

This is one of the quotes that convinced me that I had been living my life incorrectly.

The secret of all success is to know how to deny yourself. Prove that you can control yourself, and you are an educated man; and without this all other education is good for nothing. R. D. Hitchcock from The Quotations Page

It reads:

The secret of all success is to know how to deny yourself. Prove that you can control yourself, and you are an educated man; and without this all other education is good for nothing.

  • R. D. Hitchcock

I had known that living a life of hedonism was wrong. I had learned that over the years, but I never knew of the concept of sophrosyne. I had never been taught that self-control and moderation could create a healthy state of being. Sure, I had heard the phrase, “All things in moderation,” but it wasn’t a way of life for me.

In fact, I loved to find objections to that rule. Really? All things in moderation? How much rat poison is moderate?

Despite that, the concept of living a moderate life has brought me FAR more happiness than hedonism ever did. Being able to deny myself has given me more peace of mind, happiness and calm than over-doing it ever did.

And YES, all my other education was good for NOTHING in the face of that hedonism. NOTHING. It didn’t matter that I had a degree. It didn’t matter that I was a writer. NOTHING mattered except more and more eating. There was no way to stop it, no matter how much I learned about the dopamine response, it was useless without the ability to deny myself.

And I haven’t learned how to deny myself, really. I just handed all those decisions about food over to a part of mind that continually makes better decisions than I ever did. Should I eat that? What does my FitBit say? Has my meal alarm went off? What does Lose It say? Do I have any calories left? I don’t make those decisions anymore, because when I did, I chose hedonism. I can’t be trusted to make those decisions, so sophrosyne is in charge, not me.

I am so surprised that this quote means so much to me. It has literally saved my life.

1/3/2015

Keep Your Mind Even

By Laura Moncur @ 1:56 pm — Filed under:

I adore this quote from Horace:

Remember when life's path is steep to keep your mind even. Horace from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Remember when life’s path is steep to keep your mind even.

  • Horace

The path in that picture is of the Na Pali Coast Trail. Mike and I visited Hawaii back in 2002 and hiked part of this trail on that trip. It was VERY hard for us and I was sore for days afterward. Here’s a picture Mike snapped of me on that trip.

Laura Moncur 2002 Na Pali Coast

I remember thinking, “Someday I’ll be really fit and be able to do the whole hike.” It is nearly THIRTEEN years later and I’m not there yet. This life really is steep, so I’m keeping my mind even. Hopefully, by the time I return, I WILL be fit and able to do the whole hike without suffering for days afterwards.

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