Seven Habits That Keep You Strong

By Laura Moncur @ 10:32 am — Filed under:

7 Habits that will keep you strong from Starling FitnessTiny buddha has an AWESOME article about seven habits that will keep you strong, even when things go wrong.

Their seven habits are:

  • Use your power of choice.
  • Accept what is, no matter what.
  • Be grateful.
  • Neutralize the negative.
  • Return to the present moment.
  • Trust yourself.
  • Forgive.

The MOST important one to me is to accept what is, no matter what. I spent so much time judging myself and the others around me that all I could see was bad. Accepting things for what they are has helped me so much in the last year and a half. Many times, I overate because I was angry about something that “shouldn’t” be. Whether I felt that it should be or not, it was and once I accepted the world on its own terms, I was a much happier person. I binged less and my weight dropped.

I love this list of habits to learn to keep strong. Considering how much strength and hope I’ve received from just the Acceptance habit, I am eager to see how the rest of them will help me.

Image via: Nature’s Sunshine – 7 Ways to Strengthen Your Brain Naturally


Try To Be A Rainbow In Someone’s Cloud

By Laura Moncur @ 8:36 am — Filed under:

I love this quote and motivational poster from Wake Up World:

Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud from Starling Fitness

It reads:

Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.

  • Maya Angelou

This concept is incredibly helpful to me because I’m a selfish and self-involved person. Taking a moment to try to be nice to someone else, helps me get out of my head, my body and my selfishness enough to make things better for me. Helping other people is a GOOD thing for me.

It can be a two-edged sword, however.

Being a people-pleaser and trying to help others to the detriment of yourself is NOT a good thing. It’s part of the disease for other people. It’s called being codependent or an enabler. It can be draining on your pocketbook and psyche.

Knowing which is which is hard, sometimes. I spend so much time obsessing about myself that getting out of my own head and trying to think of ways that I can be of service to others HELPS me. It invigorates me instead of draining me. The inner spiral of self-obsession is what drains me and serving others gets me away from that.

Take a few moments with yourself and try to know what kind of person you are. Are you a people-pleaser, trying to make everyone except yourself happy? Are you a self-obsession junkie, spending too much time thinking about your own inner working? Being of service to others has been very helpful to me. Hopefully, it will be a tool of use for you as well.


Start Loving It Back

By Laura Moncur @ 7:30 am — Filed under:

I don’t know where this image originally came from, but I saw it on Facebook and immediately loved it.

Start Loving It Back from Starling Fitness

It reads:

Did you ever realize how much your body loves you? It’s always trying to keep you alive.

It’s making sure you breathe while you sleep, stopping cuts from bleeding, fixing broken bones, finding ways to beat the illness that might get you.

Your body literally love you so much…

It’s time you start loving it back.

It’s true. For an atheist like me, the miracle of a body that takes such good care of me is the closest thing I can imagine for a loving God. Imagine that your body is your higher power, doing its best to take care of your health and well-being. Its sole intent is to keep you living and thriving. EVERYTHING that it does is to keep you alive. If you are at a loss for imagining a higher power, you have your miraculous body right there to take its form.


Reach Higher

By Laura Moncur @ 7:22 pm — Filed under:

I saw this motivational poster on Facebook the other day and it really spoke to me.

Reach Higher from Starling Fitness

It reads:

If you are losing your balance in a yoga pose, reach higher. It will steady you. This is true, not just in your practice, but everywhere in your life!

This advice has helped me when I’m trying to hold a pose in yoga. I feel my body elongate and the pose has more length to balance, making it easier.

In life, I have constantly and vigorously reached higher. I don’t know if it has helped me or not. Sometimes it seems that when I relax and let things happen naturally, they work out better than when I’m constantly striving. Perhaps I just don’t know how to properly “reach higher” in life. Maybe it has less to do with pushing myself and more to do with making myself a better person.


Every Pose Is A Beginning

By Laura Moncur @ 8:10 am — Filed under:

I have been practicing yoga for the last two months. I’ve been watching some videos on YouTube to get started:

I have been doing the same few poses every day for two months and I’m getting pretty good at them. Today, I was feeling a little bored, so I decided to try Eagle pose and I was SHOCKED.

Eagle Pose: Every Pose Is A Beginning from Starling Fitness

Image via: Eagle Pose – We Are Yoga

I suck at it.

Every time I try a new pose, I am a rank amateur. I am a beginner. Just because I have been able to hold Downward Facing Dog without my arms shaking and losing my balance, doesn’t mean I am good at Eagle Pose. Every pose is a beginning.

Honestly, that’s how life is. Every new thing we try is a beginning and we are rank amateurs.

The funny thing is, I didn’t get frustrated like I did when I was first starting yoga. I got excited. I had gotten a little bored with the poses that I had worked on lately, but this Eagle pose thing was HARD, and somehow, that was a GOOD thing. When I first started yoga, I was VERY frustrated with the fact that I couldn’t hold most poses for more than five seconds. I had to keep starting over to get my full 20 seconds of hold. Today, however, I had a tiny jolt of adrenaline from it. Here was something that I couldn’t do and I knew that if I kept trying for a couple of months, I COULD do it. I just needed to keep trying. It was beautiful.

The next time I realize that I am a rank amateur at something in the “real” world, I’m going to remember this. I’m going to recall that jolt of excitement that says, “This is HARD! And that’s a GOOD thing!”


I Am Short

By Laura Moncur @ 9:33 am — Filed under:

I am short. At 5’2″, most people tower over me. I can’t reach things on top shelves. Sometimes I need to ask my husband to get something from a high spot. Sometimes I need to get a step out of the closet to reach them.

I Am Short from Starling Fitness

I never berate myself for being short.

I never feel guilty when I have to get a step out of the closet to reach things.

I never get angry at myself when I have to ask Mike to get something that is high.

I can’t change the fact that I’m short.

The same is true about my eating disorder.

I have binge eating disorder. I have no control over food and when I start a binge, I cannot stop it. There are certain foods that are really dangerous to me because when I eat them, they make me want to binge for days afterwards. I can never eat like a “normal” person again.

Sometimes I need to ask for help when I want to binge. Sometimes I can’t stay away from food on my own and I need to call my sponsor or a friend. Sometimes I need to get myself away from the food. Sometimes I need to go back to basics and work on the steps.

I do not berate myself for overeating.

I never get angry at myself for needing to work my Overeater’s Anonymous program in order to keep myself from bingeing.

I never feel guilty when I need to ask for help to stay away from food.

I can’t change the fact that I have an eating disorder.

Overeater’s Anonymous does not endorse anything on this entry or blog. I speak only of my personal experience and not for OA as a whole.


If You Have Time For…

By Laura Moncur @ 7:56 am — Filed under:

I saw this motivational poster on Daily Gains Fitness and I about jumped out of my seat.

If you have time for Tumblr you have time to workout from Starling Fitness

It reads:

If you have time for Tumblr, then you have time to workout.

For me, it’s not Tumblr that takes up all my time. It’s Facebook. There’s a poster for that one too, from Fit Photos page on Facebook.

If you have time for Facebook you have time to workout from Starling Fitness

It reads:

If you have time for Facebook, then you have time for exercise.

I spend a lot of time just zoning out and scrolling down on Facebook and Pinterest. If I just walked on the treadmill while I did that, I would have much more activity calories burned. I should put this motivational poster on my phone and iPad home screen so I see it every time I pull up my favorite obsession and replace it with a MUCH healthier obsession.


Focus Is About Saying No

By Laura Moncur @ 12:00 pm — Filed under:

I love this quote that I found today.

The hardest thing when you think about focusing. You think focusing is about saying Yes. No. Focusing is about saying No. And when you say No you piss off people. Steve Jobs from The Quotations Page

It reads:

The hardest thing when you think about focusing. You think focusing is about saying “Yes.” No. Focusing is about saying “No.” And when you say “No,” you piss off people.

  • Steve Jobs

That is so true for me. When I focus on a project, I really feel like it’s saying “yes” to that project. It is, in some respects, but it is also saying “no” to other projects. Not only that, it’s CONTINUALLY saying “no” to other projects until you make your goal.

That’s how it is with losing weight. It’s not about saying “yes” to losing weight and living healthy. It’s about saying “no” over and over and over again. In fact, you find yourself saying “no” so many times that it begins to feel negative.

  • Would you like a piece of pie?
  • Would you like to go out drinking with us?
  • Would you like to go to the movies?
  • Would you like to blow off your workout?
  • Would you like to take the rest of this home?
  • Would you like to meet me for dinner?

There is nothing wrong with any of these questions. There is a time for pie (at least a tiny sliver) and a time for movies, but when those things interfere with your goal of losing weight and living healthy, then you have to say “no.”

There is another way to look at it, though. Every time you say “no” rephrase it as a “yes.”

  • I would love that pie, but I have already eaten enough. Can you wrap me up a piece that I can take home? (Then throw it away in the nearest dumpster.)
  • I’d like to go drinking, but I need to wake up early to workout. I’ve got a 5K to train for.
  • I’d like to go to the movies, but I can’t handle all the popcorn and food there right now. How about we rent a DVD instead?
  • I love my workouts and I don’t ever want to blow them off. Want to come with me?
  • I would love to take that food home. (Then throw it away in the nearest dumpster.)
  • I’d like to see you, but it’s too late for me to eat right now. Let’s meet up at the bookstore (library, park, skating rink, etc.) and see each other.

The truth is, you WILL piss some people off when you have to say “no.” They’re not used to you giving your health a priority. After years of doing it, however, things will be different. People will treat you differently.

  • I know you don’t like pie right after dinner. Should I save you a piece to take home?
  • We want to go out drinking. When is your rest day for your morning workouts? We’ll go the night before.
  • Want to go to the movies? We can arrive right before it starts so there isn’t time for popcorn.
  • Can I come with you on a workout this week?
  • You probably don’t want this, do you? I didn’t think so. I’ll just save it for leftovers.
  • Want to meet at the bookstore?

Then, you can say “yes” instead of “no.” Training our families to be respectful of our dreams is something that is very important on this journey and this is one way you can start doing it now.


The Fat Had Nothing To Do With It

By Laura Moncur @ 10:22 am — Filed under:

I found this image of a pattern for a pioneer dress on Antique Dollhouse of Patterns. It reminded me of 7th Grade.

Pioneer Dress Pattern Eighties

When I was a kid, my grandmother made me two or three of these dresses. I was in the middle of an intense Little House on the Prairie phase and I needed dresses to go to church three times a week. I LOVED these dresses.

I learned to sew that summer by watching my grandmother make those dresses. Since that summer, I’ve always made some of my clothes and altered most of my store bought clothes. Store bought clothes never quite fit me correctly. Finding the right ones usually involves hemming or altering them somehow.

I always thought it was because I was fat.

Now that I am approaching “normal” sizes and can buy large “normal” clothes instead of plus sized clothes, I am surprised that I STILL need to alter my clothes. They never seem to fit correctly, but now I don’t have fat to blame.

That is EXACTLY how a lot of things are for me. I have blamed EVERYTHING on my weight, when in actuality, it had very little to do with things. Just like the fact that I still have to hem my pants, despite losing 70 pounds, I have many problems in my life that had nothing to do with my weight.

Like self-esteem. I still think I’m fat. Honestly, I still AM fat. I have thirty pounds to go right now, but I still feel as fat as I did when I was seventy pounds heavier. The fat has NOTHING to do with it. I feel fat sometimes and it has nothing to do with my body and everything to do with my mind.

Just like hemming my pants, I still need to work on my mind, no matter what I weigh. Getting thinner doesn’t solve my problems, it merely shows me what problems were caused by my fat (like chaffing thighs and being out of breath) and which ones were caused by my brain.


Find Somebody To Be Successful For

By Laura Moncur @ 8:31 am — Filed under:

I absolutely ADORE this quote from President Obama!

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs. Barack Obama from The Quotations Page

It reads:

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs.

  • Barack Obama

Thinking of other people instead of myself has been one of the most helpful things I’ve learned this last year. So many times when I am feeling bad, it’s because I am only thinking about myself. The minute I try to focus my goals on making other people happy, all that worry, fear and desire for control go out the window. Taking the focus off myself and my crazy head and putting it outside myself somehow makes the crazy go away.

And when the crazy goes away, I don’t feel the need to binge. I can eat healthy food and feel satisfied. I can exercise reasonably without injuring myself.

So go find somebody to be successful for.

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