Comments on: PostSecret: You’re Still An Asshole

By: Shelly

Shelly — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 18:53:41 +0000

I had the same experience. Except it must be how my whole family thinks because its not just one person. So, when I see them they always comment on me being heavy. It finally got to me and I lost a lot of weight and when I saw them all at Christmas…Noone said anything…Nothing at all! But now that Ive gained it all back plus some they have plenty to say. I just dont listen to them. But it still bothers me. And its not even about them…I want to lose weight because I hate the way I look…without them saying anything at all. It would just be nice to have some support instead of the people that are supposed to love you put you down all the time.

By: Blake

Blake — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 17:25:39 +0000

right on. do it for yourself. be healthy because you want to be. congrats on losing weight and getting healthier!

By: B.

B. — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 05:42:41 +0000

Wow, Laura, that makes me so sad to hear how your Grandpa treated you.

Your words about not trying to get acceptance from certain people are inspiring.

By: BryanB/OrtingRunner

BryanB/OrtingRunner — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 17:17:06 +0000

I have also lost lots of weight. Although I hated how I looked, I hated how I felt worse. If I seek out others acceptance for who I am, I must be secure enough to handle the rejection of my expectation. I believe that weigh loss is an internal job not just involving calorie reduction and exercise. The process of removing my own mental safe guards has been more challenging than loosing 160 pounds. I still find myself seeking acceptance from others because I am like a normal person on the outside, but still (occasionally) a mental fatty. When I was heavy, I saw the looks, the shake of the heads, the quick eye snap away when I catch them staring at me. Today, I feel like I am “a part of” or “in the crowd” of normies that used to be ashamed of me. I am treated different today because I look different. Shallow people will always be that way. The best I can do today, is kind and understanding to these sick people and help my fellow heavies. They are human and are hurting. What better service can we provide than the lending of time and support to our former selves. A sympathetic ear will reinforce my efforts every day.

By: Elisa

Elisa — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 13:34:02 +0000

Wow. What a mean person!

I had a morbidly obese grandmother and a very thin aunt and mother who were constantly on my case about my weight all through my teen years. It did nothing but make me hyper critical and obsessed for many years.

I weigh a good 40 lbs more than I did when they thought I was fat and yet, I don’t feel half as ugly as they made me feel back then.

Congrats to you on losing all your weight! I read your blog daily to stay inspired!