Comments on: Bullying At The Gym

By: Robin

Robin — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 15:21:21 +0000

I can totally relate to all the crap people have to put up with at the gym. Yes, the guys hog all the equipment. It's pretty intimidating when they get together in packs. They like to make totally lame comments at me, but thanks to the invention of the MP3 player, I just turn up the music and drown them out.

By: lisa

lisa — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 23:25:20 +0000

I'm sorry she hurt your feelings, but did you ever think the "wear the same clothes" comment might have been a veiled way of letting you know you smelled bad? Believe me, I'm speaking from personal experience: when I was losing weight, I smelled like ammonia because I was pverdoing the protein and not eating enough carbs. I didn't know until someone told me. I was horrified, extremely embarrassed and so angry I could have punched somebody, and but I'm glad I did something about it. Personally, I'd rather know and fix it than not know and give stupid people a reason to be snarky behind my back.

Is there another gym you could visit instead? Screw them, I don't blame you for not wanting to go back at all. Good luck!

By: yogamn

yogamn — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:23:16 +0000

Sorry, Charlie–you’re not saying what the others are. You’re just rude. And you can’t spell. AND you admitted that you’re a bully too. Other than an excuse to boast about your stats, what is your purpose on this thread? To chastise her some more? No one cares what you weigh. Make sure you at like a human being.

By: lalana

lalana — Fri, 05 Jan 2007 19:07:25 +0000

Just found this post and my response is sort of a nicer version of Charlie’s. The comment from the blue-car woman didn’t sound bullying, just sort of annoying. The best tack would have been to laugh it off and say, “Oh, I just have 10 versions of the same outfit.” Or something like that just to blow her off and let her know that gym outfits weren’t a priority for you. I mean, who cares what anyone wears? I’m so into exercise in the classes, I probably couldn’t pick the other exercisers out of a lineup outside the gym. You do sound thin-skinned and overly sensitive. Don’t sweat the small stuff or the small people. Go back to the gym and if they don’t like what you’re wearing, so what?

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 30 Sep 2006 20:39:42 +0000

It may also be that the women found Lisa to be threatening or intimidating in some way. Fear and jealousy often motivate such behavior.

By: Noah

Noah — Tue, 26 Sep 2006 12:14:54 +0000

I've kicked people out of my TurboKick class for stuff like that. I might not be the most popular instructor, but I will not take adults acting like they are in jr. high. Call me crazy, but I love having newbies in the class, they are normally excited and scared shitless all at the same time. I love it when they "get it", their face just lights up. Alright maybe that's dramatic, but I love teaching.

By: Charlie

Charlie — Sun, 24 Sep 2006 22:03:25 +0000

Right on iportion, your just a little calmer than I am.

By: iportion

iportion — Sun, 24 Sep 2006 05:31:30 +0000

Some people live like they are still in highschool. Guys and girls do bullying. I went to school and there was a girl who was so rude to me. I stuck it out and I made it but she didn't.

By: Charlie

Charlie — Sat, 23 Sep 2006 21:00:40 +0000

Laura, I endured a lot of crap when I first started bodybuilding. I started out when I was 42 at 250lbs. and 28% body fat. 6 years later I weigh in at 230lbs. and 8% body fat. I can honestly say that the bullying made me a tougher lifter. I won't bully at the gym unless I'm pushed to it. Guys that like to hog equipment get it, guys that like to pick on smaller people (yes I have even seen grown men in the gym pick on a young guy with cerebral palsy)get it. So I guess I'm guilty of it too. But come on, to cry about someone asking if you launder your cloths? At that point I would wear the dirtyist, stinkiest, workout cloths I could stand just to piss those limp wrists off and if they said any more about it I'd tell them where to go. Get a backbone! You are doing exactly what these limp wrists want by caving in and not standing up for yourself. Its not like you live with these people and I'm sure (as in my case) not all of the people are ignorant losers, like the ones you discribe at your gym. And if your serious, make headway and achive your goals they will have to recognize you, if not to your face to themselves. Basicly "shut-up and train" its what your there for.

By: Laura Moncur

Laura Moncur — Sat, 23 Sep 2006 14:04:09 +0000

Charlie,

It's obvious that you have never endured the toture that women can do to each other. I joined the boys club because I can take a punch much easier than the stuff girls do to each other.

Laura Moncur