http://www.starling-fitness.com/archives/2006/07/16/i-don%e2%80%99t-bite-my-fingernails-anymore-part-3/ Daily writings about fitness, diet, and health Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:33:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 http://www.starling-fitness.com/archives/2006/07/16/i-don%e2%80%99t-bite-my-fingernails-anymore-part-3/#comment-35772 Karla Mon, 17 Jul 2006 03:11:13 +0000 http://www.starling-fitness.com/archives/2006/07/16/i-don%e2%80%99t-bite-my-fingernails-anymore-part-3/#comment-35772 <p>Thank you for writing about this issue-- I suspect that most of us with compulsive eating/binging problems have their roots in controlling family dynamics. Let me just say, as well, that you were an adorable 4 year old (who has turned into a beautiful woman) and your grandmother must have been smoking crack to think that you were "fat." I am just so sorry that the 4 year old you had to live through that.</p> <p>My main reaction to this series of articles that you wrote was, in addition to blowing me away with your honesty and optimism, that there's a psychological truism for every emotional issue that you continue to carry around with you-- as well as its flip side, the "knowing" that you can get past it. This truism is that you have to hold onto something before you can let it go. </p> <p>I know, maybe in a similar way that you know, that binge eating will one day no longer exist in my life. I do it much less frequently now that even just one year ago, and my binges are usually not as long or as intense. I also pay attention to (and remember) the negative side effects of binging more than I ever have. And I'm learning that I don't have to eat when I'm not actually hungry.</p> <p>But I'm not quite willing to let it go, yet. I know also that for some reason I need to hold onto those binges for a little bit longer. I still need them, but in a less frequent, less severe, and less desperate way. I will be willing to let them go soon, though. I can already feel my fingers loosening their grip.</p> <p>I also thought you might enjoy Geneen Roth's books. It's been a while (maybe 10 years) since I last read one, but I'm going to order another. Soon. ;)</p> <p>Karla http://www.geneenroth.com</p> Karla http://www.geneenroth.com]]> http://www.starling-fitness.com/archives/2006/07/16/i-don%e2%80%99t-bite-my-fingernails-anymore-part-3/#comment-35766 anet Sun, 16 Jul 2006 18:53:07 +0000 http://www.starling-fitness.com/archives/2006/07/16/i-don%e2%80%99t-bite-my-fingernails-anymore-part-3/#comment-35766 <p>i like your blog so much. and your photo is SO VERY CUTE! i have been thinking alot about my own binging lately. this is my pattern, come home from work and sit at the dining room table and chew chew chew. this past few weeks i have been gorging on raw beets/carrots w/ hummus. I always eat past saiety. And was thinking WHY do I feel compelled to do this? So on my morning runs I have been contemplating my past. WHEN did my binge eating start, what was going on that time. Menarche, divorced parents, suicidal father, bullying classmate in my school, a girl that kept threatening to beat me up (i guess i just seemed vulnerable) ..... These memories made me sad and somehow I want to make this info useful to me, I thought-- maybe that girl who was just relieved to get home from another day at school was seeking solace and is still seeking solace. How can I comfort myself w/o food? Laurel Mellin's books address this but I haven't finished one yet!</p>